Posted on Thursday 6 September 2018
Oliver’s story – Our cancer commute to hospital is 120 miles each way
Oliver was diagnosed with leukaemia in August 2016, aged eight. Mum Nicky explains how two years of treatment 120 miles from home has cost the family.
Initially when they said leukaemia we were just very frightened and devastated – we didn’t know what to expect, didn’t know what the implications of that were.
Oliver was in isolation for seven weeks. Only four named people were allowed in with him including me and my husband Mike. Oliver’s brother Benjamin wasn’t allowed, he was too young.
I was up in Bristol the entire time. Mike would drive up from Plymouth on Friday night with Benjamin and they would stay at the CLIC Sargent Home from Home, Sam’s House. On Saturday morning they would come up to the hospital and Benjamin and Oliver would wave to each other through the window. We bought them walkie-talkies so they could talk to each other. They would talk about school, lego, minecraft, tag rugby. They are really good friends.
From our house in Plymouth to Bristol Children’s Hospital is 120 miles each way. On a good day it takes just over two hours each way, but with the holiday traffic over the summer it has sometimes taken as long as four hours. We have worked out that it costs us £80 for a return trip, and that’s every weekend. And that’s before you even consider wear and tear. We have estimated with wear and tear it costs about £120 per journey.
We have made that journey every week since May. That is £1280 this year alone, just on petrol. The first time Oliver was ill we were spending £40 a week every week for 5.5 months. That’s £880, so we have easily spent more than £2000 on travel.
Spending that money is unavoidable. It is vitally important that Oliver gets to spend time with both his parents, and it is so important for Benjamin to see his brother. Siblings are often the bystanders in all of this and we are very conscious of his health and well-being, too.
Day to day costs
And these travel costs aren’t the only thing that hits us financially. I have had to give up work, because it is the second time around for Oliver on treatment.
Oliver's mum Nicky
We have had to really look at what we are spending, the type of food we are eating. Treats are something we have to think really carefully about.
When we go on days out, it used to involve a meal in the café, an ice cream. Now we think about free places we can visit, and take packed lunch. Small things like that. We have tried really hard for it not to be noticeable to the children.
We are very fortunate in that we didn’t have debts coming into this, and that Mike is employed rather than self-employed. But we have met families that aren’t as fortunate with their circumstances and it does cause a lot of extra stress and anxiety. That’s where CLIC Sargent social workers are so amazing. But we also know that if this goes on a lot longer it will have significant consequences and we are going to end up in debt.
Nobody asks for this to happen. Nobody wants to be in this situation. Not having any support with travel costs can really affect a families’ emotional wellbeing because it comes at a time when we are already anxious and worried, so it just another thing to add to the pressure. It would make such a difference to people to not have to think about the cost of just getting to treatment.
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